What I've Learned Wednesday - Mean Comments

If you're following me on facebook, you might know that I received my first mean comment this weekend.  Really.  And I think I was supposed to be all down about it... but I sort of giggled a bit.  And then a lot.  And then my sides started hurting so I thought about sad stuff to collect myself.

At first, I just deleted the comment and thought I wouldn't address it at all.  I mean, it was anonymous (she evidently had the lady-grapes to call me 'hefty' but not to leave her name, nice) so I certainly couldn't respond to her.  And all those haters want is attention anyway, so why address it, right?

Wrong.  Oh, so wrong.  I kind of need the last word on most things.  Instead of pretending it never happened, I'm shining a light on the hate and sharing it with you.

Here's a screen shot of the email with the comment in it:

For those of you who can't read that (I tried to make it bigger but it wasn't meant to be), here's the translation:


Anonymous has left a new comment on your post "Cherry Crobbler":

every pat of butter is 100 calories. i counted 18. so, that's 1800 calories in butter. the whole package of cake mix is 1000 calories. there are 680 calories in a whole can of cherry pie filling. so, technically, the entire pie is 3480. divided by 6 pieces is 580 calories a slice. that's if you really stick to eating just one slice. add in a scoop of vanilla ice cream tacks on another 150 to 200 calories.

oh yeah. you're a real thrifty, crafty, hefty girl.

better to have used real cherries, just a pat of butter and a few teaspoons of sugar and topped it off with a crumble made from old fashioned oats and cinnamon.

moving on. outta here. yuck. 

Do you need to go back and re-read that or did the nastiness sink in already?  Feel free to go back... when you're ready, read on.

Let's just go line by line, shall we?

The box of cake mix is 1700 calories.  Shows what she knows.

In my world, that dish serves three people.  All of those people are me.

I am not 'hefty'.  I prefer the term 'plump'.  In yesterday's post, you can see a picture of me.  Not my face though, which is where I store most of my fat.

This next line is the only thing I won't argue with: I'm not a healthy foods blog... if that's what you're looking for, you're in the wrong place.  I can recommend several for you, because there are THOUSANDS out there, but this isn't one of them.  In fact, in most of my recipes, I flat-out tell you that it isn't light or low-fat and if that's not your thing, you should know it before reading.  I try to keep it real as well as high-fat.  And if this recipe suggestion had been the only thing she wrote, this comment would have been PRODUCTIVE instead of cranky.  And I'm all for lighter versions of any recipe I put up here... not for me, the Thrifty Crafty Hefty girl, but for other readers who share your healthier eating sentiment.

And the last line... you're moving on? Outta here? Yuck?  Well, that is a shame, since I'll miss all your sweet comments.

Really though, I don't want to see anyone upset by any of my posts... I'm not happy that this reader won't be back... but I can't please everyone.  I never claimed to be a healthy food blog.  I also did not stick a gun to this reader's ribs and force her to make this recipe and eat it.  At least, I don't think I did... sometimes I forget stuff.

So here's what I've learned for today:  You will not please everyone.  This person CLEARLY has bigger issues than a fat-filled recipe on a blog.  Let's all say a few words of encouragement that this anonymous reader has a better day today than they did yesterday.  If you ever get a mean comment, remember that for every one of those you get, you have probably gotten hundreds of nice comments.  And if the haters still have you down, come to your ol' pal Prissy... I'll set you straight on how awesome you are.

Now, you'll have to pardon me.  I'm shoveling high-fat food into my mouth and must focus.




I link up at these great parties!